At first glance this topic may seem superfluous, perhaps unimportant and of no use to you personally. But think of the wisdom to be gained as somewhat akin to insurance… valuable and even vital to have, just in case. The probability for “cashing in” on it is high, given the likelihood of being confronted by disturbing reverberations of life endings. Consider the possibility that this information at some point in your future could make a monumental difference, either when in the throes of bereavement or simply when relating to companions immersed in grief.

For a grieving man, such enlightenment could contribute to understanding one’s own perspectives and postures, conferring confidence that would counteract societally imposed insinuations of maladaptation when conventional reactions are circumvented. 

For a woman, the information offers a key to unlock mechanics of the male psyche, promoting comprehension of psychological processes and behaviors that may be gender rather than arbitrarily determined.  

The revelations to be unveiled are simple and easy

to grasp, yet they have potential to direct the trajectory of attitudes and interactions following a loss. Instead of allowing misguided perceptions about normative or expected behavior to compound distress, awareness of variant outlooks and actions will likely facilitate comfort and compassion. Regardless of one’s gender, it behooves everyone

to acquire these insights. 

Preparing for grief is most likely not on your “to do” list. But consider the fact that personal heartache or a desire to support someone who has suffered a loss can happen in a flash, at any moment in time. By pausing now for about an hour to absorb and store this salient information in your end-of-life mental toolbox, you’ll gain useful discernment while paving the way for meaningful engagement in the future. You and your life companions are bound to benefit from your farsighted breadth of awareness.